When to end your marriage

I just read online 9 signs that your spouse is cheating on you. This is on a serious divorce-support site. And they are:

1. Your spouse isn’t in love with you anymore
2. Your spouse is spending a lot of time with “a new friend”
3. Your spouse starts hiding their emails, phone bills, and credit card bills from you
4. Your spouse requests time alone, away from you
5. Your spouse suddenly starts working late or putting in odd hours
6. Your spouse spends large amounts of time on the computer, hangs out in chat rooms, and visits pornographic websites
7. Your spouse suddenly hangs up the phone when you enter the room and is defensive if you ask about it
8. Your spouse starts getting caught in lots of little lies and acts in ways that just don’t add up
9. You think your spouse is cheating on you.
   

A couple things come to mind when I read this.

First off, maybe it’s just me, but if even one of these is true and you can’t figure out that your spouse is cheating without checking on the internet, your spouse deserves better.

Second, Marriages can survive infidelity. It happens all the time. That said, if more than one or two of these are true and your spouse isn’t cheating on you, hire a divorce lawyer. In other words, if my wife starts spending all her time looking at porn and telling me that she can’t come home at night anymore, she better have someone on the side— otherwise, it means that she’s so dissatisfied with me that she would rather spend her time looking at cheap jpegs and drinking alone than spending it with me.

Being lured away on some fling by some tall, dark, and handsome stranger I can understand; but if you just hate your significant other, call it a mulligan and move on.